I just read for the first time, the six stages of a MLC. I do think she is in a MLC but add the childhood psyche issues into the mix and its a hornet's nest.
I think she's coming out of replay stage and entering the depression stage. I see now how much time each of these stages can take. The vets were right, this can take a long time.
This may sound odd but I'm actually enjoying the part about focusing on myself. It's like I have been granted this time out and the ability to evaluate my whole life and see where I developed harmful habits, know why and where they came from, and realize that I know how to move beyond them into a better realm. I'm not sure if this chance would have ever came if she didn't have this happen to her, or maybe it would have come about in some other fashion.
I do really miss having a partner. Maybe this was the only way to get to a place of having a much better partnership. Who knows? Maybe I would have been different had I been with someone else? Hard to say.
