When I got home last night there was a message for my w from her dentist's office stating she had an appointment on Wednesday--so I felt I should call her to let her know. I did, and she picked up the phone. Again, she sounded good--her energy sounded more open.
She said she knew of the appointment already, and thanked me anyway. I asked her how she was doing and how her day was, and she said she was good, but said her day at work was just OK.--she didn't really expound on much...but again I had the feeling that she was more open and less defensive then in the beginning of January. So although I can't physically measure it with an instrument, I feel I've successfully defused a great bit of the momentum taking us down the divorce-path.
My d3 wanted to talk to me--she gave me a short report on how she was doing, telling me a cheese stick at snack had given her a "stomach ache". I was surprised that she had mastered the word stomach already, but told her I was sorry about her tummy ache.
My wife got back on and I wrapped up the call. Again another short and sweet conversation--but earlier in the day I thought she was trying to avoid me--no one said this wasn't going to be a roller coaster ride.
I think I did fine on that one--I don't think I was chasing, or over-calling. I'm going to try to go the rest of the week without calling her and see if maybe she will call me.
One thing that I'm not sure DB addresses, is that it's easy to sort of use specific Items as fronts for making contact. The WAS gets a piece of mail at the house, or there's something going on with the kids--there are so many things that can be used as a the primary reason for contact.
"Things are never bad; it's the way you think about them." -Epictetus
