Specifics, please! Can't afford telephone consult!

[Yasu]

I apologize for invading your thread, I was not well. I took the wrong medications by accident. As a result, my neediness really got out of control. Please forgive me.

I am just outraged by your husbands actions, especially in this post. It is almost child-like recalcitrance. To come into YOUR (yes, YOUR) private space, without your knowledge, and take that oil was not unlike a dog peeing in the corner of a room.

Actually I think the greatest offense, by far, is to his paramour, as he has brought used product into her boudreau and tail. Isn't that the most disgusting insult you could bring upon another woman (other than using her for sex in the capacity of a concubine)?

This is just my opinion. In Geogia, there is "equitable distribution" rather than 50/50. In the event you break up, you need professional documentation of what he is doing. Some people might say "better safe than sorry.". I certainly wish I had collected proper evidence.

Secondly, I believe you need to have a hearing regarding temporary support. This hearing would make clear who lives in what residence, and you could then change the locks, or get an alarm system. You have a right to funds to cover your legal expenses.

I urge you to be the first to file, this gives you a slight edge that your attorney can explain to you.

I am not telling you to get divorced. Your husband evidently has council, don't mess around and let him outsmart you by filing first.

Thirdly, NEVER SHOW YOUR BADGE. That is the moto of undercover cops. The same as "never show you cards" - with a little more impact. You are exactly right - sign nothing, do not ever discuss it. I have made the same mistake because I got so mad.

Fourthly, if. He is getting in the house, he may be getting into the computer. Even if you erase your history, etc., everything is still there. Even if you password and lock the computer, he can access a copy of your hard drive and find everything you ever typed. Also, recall any old computers that may be in the house. Do not leave the house without taking your computer with you.

Now I realize this is not exactly Divorce-Busting advice. However, I'm pretty sure you are not dealing with the typical MLC husband. Ad you said, he is narcissistic. His behavior suggests to me that he may have issues with women in general. If you go with the female attorney, that would agravate his narcissism for sure.

I think once you protect your assets, and have a temporary order sorted out (by a judge or dsomeone in authority (as that is what it will take for Mr. Pilot to step in line), then you can do the DB stuff.

Or, on the otherhand, your husband could very well just be acting out, as Narcissist do, and when you start being nice to Jim again, and adoring him again, he will come running home to his comfortable nest.

It all in what you are willing to tolerate. If you "shame" him for his little affair, the he will walk, if indeed he is a true blue Narcissist. You got to be a real trooper with this kind. Boy do I know it.

Hope this helped a little. Yas