I was printing something on our home printer when I noticed an extra page emerge.
On it was a list of domain names registered by H for his various businesses, and it included the new business name of OW's business. Goodness knows how it got there in the print queue for our home computer.
I felt totally gutted because I had not really had any evidence recently that she had re-emerged on the scene following a one-year hiatus. In fact, H had constantly denied that she was back on his agenda.
Of course, I'd suspected, but tried to stop any thinking about her.
Anyway, would you believe, I stopped to consider for all of 30 secs and then decided 'to hell with it, let's get this over ' and rang him to report what I'd found.
At first he denied. Then he said 'Yeah, Ok you're right, I have started back with her. Then he denied it again and then at another point in the conversation, he said 'No I haven't been but now you've interrogated me, I certainly going to'.
What a head-f...k!
The interaction deteriorated from then on until I was crying and pleading - for him to just be nice or civil to me.
And to top it all off, he then arrived on the doorstep to say he was taking my car away because I had 'effed everything up' by refusing to sign as his guarantor, and now he'd have to find $10K and give the car back to settle the lease. Apparently, the finance company had refused to allow him to take out a lease on his own.
He was livid, shaking with rage and wagging his finger at me. We spent most of the day backwards-ing and forwards-ing in argument and then semi-making up.
At one point I said "ILU' and he floored me when he replied 'ILY too'.
I got so mad that I rang the notifications board of the national psychological society to ask whether a psychologist who advertises that she specialises in relationship counselling and child issues should be behaving like OW did in emailing me with all the lurid details of her liaisons with my H, and in sending my H sexually explicit pics of herself, particularly when she knew that he was taking medication that controls mood swings. The notifications officer sounded extremely interested in the situation and encouraged me strongly to file a formal notification of misconduct.
I imagine there'd be no going back once I did this, but gee it made me feel good to hear that OW would get some comeuppance if I wanted to press for an inquiry. Just to hear someone else say that it was indeed professional mis-conduct for her to behave like this made me feel better.
What a terrible jumble. Why can't I just detach???? I thought I was doing pretty well, but this was a real backslide. And just why do I want such a man in my life....
Really, don't I have any dignity left at all?
Answer: NO, that's gone along with just about everything else.
