You've given me a lot to think about. I was comparing all the things he did/gave to OW compared to me, and thinking "Why isn't he like that with me". You are right though, from what I've heard about OW she thinks she is a "princess" too. Her H had more money than my H, but she still expected the same. I do think it would have been iteresting to see what would have happened if they had stayed together longer, only for the reason that H couldn't have maintained the lifestyle she was use to. I doubt she ever saw the apartment he had to move into after he moved out. I never have been one to ask for jewelery etc, so why would H think I would need that now. In a way its me going back to old behaviors, just a different reason me getting upset over expectations he has no idea about (before I would compare him to the man my father was, and then be mad when he didn't measure up...although now I see that he never had the male role model I had, so he was doomed to fail in my eyes) Today I was still having this "he should be trying harder" feeling, when I look at my phone and there is a text from H asking me if I'd like to go on another date. I realize I need to have a little more faith and patience in this process.
Me-36 H-37 D11 S8 S6 M9 T19 ILYNILWY 11/10 discover EA 02/11 discover EA is really PA/H moved out 03/11 H wants to go to counselling,piecing 12/11 Find out still OW(plural), I'm officially done/detached 04/12
I never have been one to ask for jewelery etc, so why would H think I would need that now. In a way its me going back to old behaviors, just a different reason me getting upset over expectations he has no idea about (before I would compare him to the man my father was, and then be mad when he didn't measure up...although now I see that he never had the male role model I had, so he was doomed to fail in my eyes) 