Oh, and about the different hats - my H once said that he "responds" to people in different ways. He said he treated OW like a princess because thats how she is like (she's actually the daughter of a super rich family, lives in a huge mansion, hordes of servants, etc) but that he loves me for my self sufficiency and independence, but he could not treat me like a princess because I am not one, he treats me in the way I am supposed to be treated....
I get it, and in a way, I am glad that I am not a princess, coz I don't think my H could have survived long with one, but still, I have days I want to be spoiled.....
But now, I realize he does spoil me too, in a different way. Just have to recognize it.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
