A whole week. Of course, I'm working all but the weekend so I only have to contend with him in the evenings. I'm pretty sure he'll be on his best behavior but still....argh!
His flight arrives at 8:25p tonight. I was secretly hoping they would cancel his flight but no luck.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
How did the first night go? I guess if you want to get technical, he isn't your family anymore so let whatever he says slide right off your back.
I suppose that is one thing to be glad for in my divorce as my former FIL was not my favorite person. I do feel bad for my former MIL though. At least it is nice that she always tells me she loves me when I do see her.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I only had to put up with him for about an hour and half before I went to bed. He's just as bizarre as ever!
Now he wants to rent a car for the rest of his stay because he wants to 'explore' on his own. This should be hilarious. Everyone gets lost here, ALL THE TIME. There are not many street signs and the ones we have are specifically made to blend into the foliage so it doesn't detract from the scenery. He is going to end up in Alabama and not be able to get back. I'll tell you this...I'm not going to go find him!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Yesterday was ok. We talked a little while I was putting away and washing dishes. We talked about Marc and what his plans are for the future. That was an ok subject. After that he got tired and went to take a nap. By the time he got up again Gabe was about to get off work so I didn't have to spend too much time alone with him.
Gabe is a nervous wreck around him. It makes it extra stressful but I'm just staying out of it.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Oh Lordy, I only have to make it through 2 more days after this. It's driving me insane!
I think after his dad leaves and we calm back down into a more normal day to day situation I'm going to ask to talk about our R. I really can't seem to figure out where to start though. I run these partial convos through my head and they all sound like something that would have him running for the door.
There are just some clarifications I want to make with him and I want to know where I stand with him. Do you think that is just too much to ask? It's been almost 2 years since he came back into my home and I haven't asked anything of him (except the couple of major breakdowns I've had but I still didn't actually ask for anything from him, I just poured out my own idiocy to him to prove I'm certifiable).
Where oh where to start?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
What kind of clarifications do you want? To define your relationship more clearly?
As for asking things of him. How about starting with the little things? What kind of things do you want?
Make some lists. Just get it all out. Then you can sit down and make sure they are phrased as positive requests requests and all that good stuff. And figure out which ones you want to tackle first.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
