I was told in DB coaching that my W is testing me, over and over - looking for proof that she is right (about wanting D; about me never changing for the positive).
Her last sleepover at my apartment, she left her laptop and purse in the living room. When I said I couldn't sleep (she was tired and wanted to crash early), I went to the living room to read. she came charging out 10 min later and - voila! - I was merely reading, her stuff safely where she'd left it.
We had great sex that night after watching some TV and talking.
