H contacted me today to say he was bringing over a lease document for me to sign regarding one of our cars.
He has been at me for weeks, insisting that I needed to take over the payments on the car that we lease in his business name, and that I now use to drive the kids to school.
I have continually said that I couldn't make a commitment to an expensive car lease without knowing about out shared finances (everything we have, and have ever made, has gone into the one pot) - basically in our complicated situation, what I need to know is who is responsible from now on for paying what?
H has, just as continually, refused to discuss any financial issues with me, but did recently hand me a lawyer's letter indicating that he was going to be asking for a 40% share of the house and 40% of my superannuation (the only asset I have left after mortgaging my house to prop up his failing business around 12 months ago).
Today he announced that he would re-lease the car in his business name, but that I would have to sign the lease as 'guarantor' for his payments - on a lease that runs for the next 5 years.
I was gobsmacked - he's trying to divorce me and yet wants to name me as guarantor for a car payment contract that he is taking out that runs for the next 5 years????
And this in the context of him having defaulted on every loan, credit-card payment, utility bill, and family loan that he has taken out in the last 4 years due to cash flow problems with his ailing businesses.
But he seemed absolutely convinced that there was no option but for me to sign it.
I tried to keep calm and say that in the absence of any information about my financial situation going forward there was no way I could commit to this new obligation, but he became enraged.
He ended up saying he no longer cared what happened and that the car could be repossessed.
He then emptied all of his stuff from our other car (a very much older and practically clapped-out car that we own outright) that he had driven up in, and called a cab.
Within a half hour he'd sent me an email asking whether I'd be responding to his lawyer's letter asking for an immediate payment to him of my superannuation (an amount of around $300K). Then came another email listing our 'assets and debts' as 'the car, house, contents, [my] superannuation and credit cards' and asking me to add anything to the list that he'd forgotten.
Is it just me or is he really off his rocker?
All I've asked for is some discussion of what part of our current debts and liabilities he considers I am responsible for paying before I can commit to taking over the lease of a replacement car.
And this is a serious question from me - I'm really starting to doubt my sanity in this.
