Finding a new perspective is always a good thing. The hardest thing I ever had to learn to do was to keep my mouth shut. In the beginning I had to literally scream at myself to STFU! As time went on, it modified to me having to walk away, then to just grinning through it... But now, I can usually get into the frame of mind to *respond* instead of *re-act* within a few minutes (most of the time.) I still get those moments where I want to yell or say something snotty- I still walk away and find something to distract me... usually coming to the boards!
Don't beat yourself up. We are all a work in progress and there is not a 'one size fits all' approach to every situation. You'll backslide, learn from it and do something different the next time. The important thing is to keep learning and *choosing* to look inward at what you want to change for you.
Check out my thread, there's a link you might like. I'm still jealous that you got to hear ILY... But happy for you at the same time
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
