Jenna, I don't have anything to add either. Like you, I find your posts so similar to my sitch. My H and I have been together since we were 16.
Me-36 H-37 D11 S8 S6 M9 T19 ILYNILWY 11/10 discover EA 02/11 discover EA is really PA/H moved out 03/11 H wants to go to counselling,piecing 12/11 Find out still OW(plural), I'm officially done/detached 04/12