I wanna play... but H has avoided me all day I feel like the kid who didn't get picked to play kickball.
Maybe I can play later in the week...
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
I thought GAL was do it to keep yourself busy so WAS notices. Boy was I wrong! I have now realized its for me n no one else!
My GAL: Get my friends back! (I stopped texting n call instead; deleted fb acct; happy hour playdates on fri at my house; al anon and aca meetings; work on living in the now. I feel a lot better because of it! How about you? What's your GAL? Has it helped?
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
1) I took up guitar lessons, am serious and systematic about working out at the gym - doing things I've avoided for years (like doing sit-ups), and look better than I have in years.
2) I'm strategically choosing a female friend to take dance lessons with (a personal interest that W refused to pursue with me).
3) I also plan to take horse-riding lessons. This is a passion of W's, and if we end up together, it'd be wise for me to be familiar. I loved horses as a kid and teen, but have had zero contact since.
4) More time with male friends. Let that go completely during this M after 2 best friends moved away.
All in all, not just working all the time: All work and no play makes FL a dull boy.
New GAL is a little tricky for me because since H was deployed for a year, I had plenty of time to GAL!
Here's what I have been doing:
1. going to the gym and dropped 70lbs in a year 2. going out, without the kids, with a girlfriend or alone once a month 3. doing things with the kids
Some new things I'm doing or planning to do:
1. taking the kids to do something fun every weekend (sometimes just one day, sometimes two) 2. pole dance (planning) 3. entertaining more at my house and accepting more invitations 4. volunteer at a hospital (preferrably the maternity ward)
Things I'm gonna do as money permits (not really GAL, but for me nonetheless, they will make me feel very proud):
1. Finish my "gator" room 2. tile my bathrooms (myself & a friend) 3. put wood floors throughout the house (myself & a friend)
Me31 H33 M11 T15 S10, D4 H deploys 01/11 H R&R two weeks 10/11 ILYBNILWY/sep 12/11 homecoming 1/12 pos D 1/13
Hmmmmmmm, I think mine are very, very tiny baby steps, but I guess they count!!
1. H has been calling over the past few days instead of just texting (for the past month it's been text only) 2. yesterday he called to tell me he forgot something at the house and had put $55 of gas in the truck (has been spending money all month without sharing)
Me31 H33 M11 T15 S10, D4 H deploys 01/11 H R&R two weeks 10/11 ILYBNILWY/sep 12/11 homecoming 1/12 pos D 1/13
