"H, I understand how you feel about us sleeping together and respect your views on this. The problem is that I really don't sleep well because you snore and twitch throughout the night. Do you have any ideas about how we can make this work for both of us. I know this is important for you and it is important for me too. I'd really like to find some way for us to work this out."
Give him time to think about it but don't harp on it. If he hasn't gotten back to you in a day or so, bring it up again but this time say something like. "H, remember we talked about the sleeping arrangements the other day? Have you been able to come up with any ideas? I was doing some research and here are some ideas that have been suggested...... What do you think?"
Okay, T, this sounds great. But I may have to file this for a later time. I think I could do the first part easily enough, and honestly I think I have (which is why it has escalated to "God" wants us to sleep together.) But I don't think I have it in me right now to "work" at getting him what he wants, especially when it's something I'm not wanting. Remember, I'm the WAW.
Please don't interpret my response as rejection. I definitely hear a very positive tone in your words. It's just that I can't even imagine myself saying/doing that right now. I couldn't pull it off without it sounding insincere. Is there a way to respond that isn't rejecting, without including the "inviting" part. I keep thinking back to Crimson's statement that LBS's get a small sign of R, and respond with the equivalent of a running tackle. I definitely don't want to encourage that.
