When H forwards me a link that seems to completely contradict his actions, but claims he believes it, how do I respond? I'll be honest and say that in this case, I probably was condescending. (What would the corresponding feeling? Shock? Disbelief? Confusion?) The article he sent me was the equivalent of someone handing me a magazine article about the benefits of being a vegetarian, while cutting into their 3-lb. New York strip on the plate next to a 2-lb. lobster tail, while telling me it represents everything they believe.
How do I respond??
It sounds to me like your H really struggles to have his voice heard/understood so he reaches for what he believes is the authoritative answer on a given subject (i.e. the internet).
I'd be really interested in understanding if you two could have a conversation without the need to prove a point - your H by needing to prove his point with internet links and you by needing to be right or prove him wrong or that he is contradictory.
Maybe best to find a different medium in which to carry on conversations.
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