Forgiveness

[antlers]

Hi Barb. I am concerned that she will show the letter to my son, and he will refuse to see the Counselor anymore. It is voluntary on his part right now. Any communication that I send to her, she shows to my kids. My daughter has repeatedly told me this.

[SunFunOne]

Do it anyway

[SunFunOne]

I think you may need to take steps much further here - with or without ex. You may need to send him to an outreach place. Somwhere that he will get indepth counselling in a controlled situation. I think you need to have an intervention.

And laugh if you want to but if I were in your shoes - I'd write to Dr Phil. You have kind of blown off the courts here - but they made need to be involved.

There is no time to sit there and ask our advice - we are probably not qualified to make theses decisions for you or even to advise you best. You need to take control and take action. TODAY!

Barb

[antlers]

Not changing the subject, but out of the clear blue I just got this text from my youngest daughter.....

"I want you to know that your a really good dad. Im actually really lucky to have you. Your always nice to me and you always do stuff for me even when I don't deserve it. And usually you'll drop everything just to come get me for like an hour. I'm great full to have a dad as good as you. 
Thanks." 

[SunFunOne]

Wow - that's awesome!

[2thepoint]

Not changing the subject, but out of the clear blue I just got this text from my youngest daughter.....

"I want you to know that your a really good dad. Im actually really lucky to have you. Your always nice to me and you always do stuff for me even when I don't deserve it. And usually you'll drop everything just to come get me for like an hour. I'm great full to have a dad as good as you. 
Thanks." 

Antlers - you have no idea how much this ^^^ warms my heart! You have to know that if your D feels this way, that your S will eventually come around. They talk and she is clearly in your corner. Just hang in there!

I'd also copy and paste this into a word document and print for frequent viewing. It has to make you feel so good!

[figgeroni]

If you are still the custodial parent, then now is the time to really use that...get your son into a treatment program while you are still able to.

he is a minor

you are the parent and can mandate that he attends a treatment program as the counselor suggested

and as the custodial parent

your rights supercede those of your ex-wife in this scenerio

line it up, get him in, let his mom know as he is being transported there, let the courts know it was recommended by the counselor at school

being a parent is tough work and breaks your heart sometimes

[antlers]

I forwarded the message the Vice Principal sent me to my sons mother. She later said that she had received it too.

I also forwarded the message the counselor sent me to my sons mother. I've received no word from her yet since then.

[2thepoint]

How goes it Antlers?

[antlers]

It's going about the same. Lots of physical activity on my days off...I've rode everyday for the past 3 days; back to work tomorrow. But I'm even going to the gym after working in the ER for 12 hours. Physical activity 7 days a week. I guess it's my therapy...my medicine. Still doing good with youngest daughter...NUTHIN' from son or oldest daughter.