I'm here and watching your thread, CV. Before you can create that new, fantastic R with your H, the mid step will be working through how you see your current R with your H.
You mentioned earlier how it can be difficult for us to be objective about our own sitchs. 2tp is doing a great job helping to give you feedback, that while you may feel that your interactions with your H should be productive and positive, perhaps he might be seeing it in a less the positive manner. This would cause him to be less than receptive and productive in kind.
Again, as 2tp indicated, I and I suspect very few, would suggest that your H is harmless in your sitch. He certainly has contributed negatively to your M, his own portion, to get your M to where it is.
SBT would tell us to change ourselves or our methods, so that will hopefully encourage your H to change his way of interacting with you, hopefully in a positive way. You H can not keep doing and behaving in the same way with you when you change your methods.
