I'm so sorry you are in this situation with your wife.
Let's start again, as if you never started before. Most everyone on this board understands the heartbreak and is here to help. We can give you support, and help you use Michele's materials to help you detect solutions for yourself. Many folks here can tell you what has and has not worked for them. So--we're here for you.
So...let's talk about a few things:
-her confession, did she confess anything other than she wants out and doesn't love you?
-what did you try? when you say a 180---what does that mean to YOU? (It might not mean the same thing to her, and it might mean, there isn't enough time by HER standards)
-what you focus on expands: what is GOOD between the two of you? OR--what USED TO BE good? How did you fall in love? How long have you been together? When did this change?
