Thank you very much for this guidance. I did just finish DR and am going to read DB. I really just don't know what is so wrong in our relationship and before he left, he could name nothing either, so that is why I am so confused.
I have not called or texted him in about a week (he just moved out a week ago). At first I was doing those things...calling, telling him that this is not right, blah blah blah (for the first day), but I immediately stopped that and only contact him through email if he contacts me first. He has taken steps, even in this past week for himself, such as going to the doctor for medication and is seeing a therapist (I believe) tomorrow.
I know I need to be patient and do things for myself, but it is incredibly hard. Before this happened, I did things for myself and knew who I was, so it's kind of hard to GAL when I already had one!
Anyone out there who has been separated for more than a week and has seen sides of great improvement??
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July