I've sat with it and run it over in my head all night.... I don't want to 'break it' this weekend. I'm not expecting that he'll beg for forgiveness and come home right away. I will not say anything to him until I get infor directly from the neighbor who saw things (I just want some facts likes what kind of car she had what she looked, how long has it gone on.) I would never talk to him unless I had proof or facts to back it up.
If/ when here's what I've thought about telling him: "I want to let you know that I know about you and (whoever the chick is) kissing and her comin over to our house when I'm not home. I feel foolish for believing you when you said that you loved me and weren't giving up on our M, when in fact you had already moved on. I know that I couldnt step up to the plate and mert your needs when you told me that you were unhappy. I regret that i wasnt strong enough to make the changes necessary. I wish i could go back in time and take what i know now to be the person i should have been- and maybe we wouldnt be in this sitch. But I also want to tell you that there is nothing you've done that can't be forgiven. Discovering this now, years later, doesn't change how much I love you. I can move past this."
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12