Renee, this discussion you had about your divorce and taxes had NOTHING to do with your son. Please stop using him as a crutch. People have talked to you time after time about trying to talk to your XH. He doesn't want to talk to you. I'm not saying its your fault, but he doesn't want to speak to you. Why in God's green earth did you speak to the OW about this? Did you really think she would say "OK Renee, you are 100% right and we will fix it" Renee, you had to know she would dispute you if you said the grass is green. Honey, you ask for some of the abuse you get. If you really want to talk to your son, then do it! He's a grown man, not a little kid, get ahold of him and talk, don't involve your XH or OW in anyway. As far as your money is concerned, take his butt to court and get it. Simple as that!