As far as I know, my father wasn't physically abusive to my mom or any female, but he was verbally. (In fact it always upset me that she didn't stand up to him.) However, he has a vitamin B12 problem. I've heard the stories that when it started his temper was much worse, with veiled hints it almost broke them up. So I don't know what actually happened then. To this day he has to take a monthly shot of B12 and if it waits too long he starts to get short tempered. So far my B12 has been normal. No bipolar I know of.
Labug: No, she doesn't want to be in a room with me for anything. I'm sure I've said many variations on I wont' do it again: I don't want to do this again, how can I not do this again, why do I keep doing this. She doesn't trust me and I know with good reason. At this point I don't trust myself. I agree I should be out of the house right now.
I never said specifically it was because she mad me angry. I did try in the beginning to analyze where in the argument things went out of control, as if somehow we both were doing something wrong, but long ago I knew it was me and I had to stop. I've tried various things on my own for years thinking I could fix it myself. How very wrong I was.
M 42, W 40, S 11, D 9 Together 20 years, married 15 W Dropped Bomb 1/12/2012 I moved (kicked) out 1/27/2012
