I don't quite know how to word this, without it coming across wrong.
What would your W do, if you suddenly said... "Hey, got a change in plan, I have to be at xyz, tomorrow night, therefore, can't take the kiddos, see them on my next scheduled time."
What I'm trying to say here is, she has every thing worked out to her advantage. She has her nights out set, her times, her life all planned out because she CAN.
She is in constant contact with you, and knows that she can be when she wants to be. She's comfortable, and riding this on her terms. It seems that your terms, connect with and surround her terms. I realize you guys must work together for the kids, I'm just talking about things outside of this.
I hope I didn't come across as rude, I'm just saying this from what I observe. I know that only a percentage of things that go on, go in a post around here, so I'm sorry if I'm wrong. I've BTDT with my first XH. It was really tough.
