Grace, Love, Compassion, & Faith - It ain't easy!

[JustStunned]

Val, we are here and we are listening. (((())))!! Sometimes we do not know what to say. Sometimes we are off dealing with our own drama.

You’ve done what you thought best with the information you had at the time. You’ve comported yourself as best as you could. Yes it hurts, but that is not a good reason to recriminate. There are lots of people in this world that would not have called and faced what you did. There are lots of people in this world that would have run from themselves and blamed “the crazy b!tch” for the demise of the marriage and all their short comings. You have not. Acknowledge what you have accomplished.

Change the perspective. What have you done right? List them, write them down, make the list real. Then list what you could have done better. Not wrong! Never wrong! What could I have done better? How will I make myself better?

You have examined yourself and your life. You have changed what you could immediately and continue to work on the rest. You have gained confidence. You have found joy in yourself. You have spread joy to others. You have been a friend. You reconnected with family. You’ve showed love.

What was said was said, and you needed to get it out, to get it vented. In the overall picture will it really change anything? You feel as though you backslid, so don’t do it again. Stop injuring yourself. You are better than that. You deserve better than that.