Sorry that you find yourself on here. First off, I would suggest that you pick up a copy of DR right away. It should clarify alot of the questions you have right now.
Think carefully. You mentioned that you had a good marriage, but there must have been some issues. It's only natural. Was there anything that your H complained about before?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.