Acts of service: Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
I could care less if he vacuums. It bothers me immensely when he makes more work for me.
Same for his quality time. He used to invite me to lunch, then read the newspaper, completely ignoring that I was even there.
What is the point of all this? I want reciprocal sex. What difference does it make what the language is called that makes me want that? I've spelled it out to him. I've given it first. It seems like something that pretty much EVERYONE would want. So call it what you want, it doesn't change my need for it.
My curiosity and frustration is peaking. Can you please offer what you know and stop leading me down this rabbit trail? I'm afraid I'm going to give up before we get there.
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