Hi Ctflor, thanks for the thought! I am doing OK! To be honest, I am still distrustful, and have been snooping though (I know, I am not supposed to....) but so far, it seems like he has not seen xOW, and also,it doesn't seem like she is going to be hired back by the cpmpany in the near future.
I also tell myself though that even if he did, I will just back off and let him figure it out for himself. Cyrena told me in a previous post that in her case, it too her H 6-12 months to realy let go of xOW intellectually, even during the time that he was working for their M. They have this fantasy where they want it all - a happy M, while still holding on to the "good" memories of the EA and still not fully admitting their fault or how much they hurt. You ae lucky, actually your H seems to have come around and admitted that to himself early on, not like mine. My H is the type who never apologizes, who is never wrong. I have to really look beyond words to know when what he is really saying to me, through his actions.
Ct, that is really nice that you are starting to value your H happiness, yu are really learniong to love, and he seems to really have a good heart....
Have you read love dare yet? I really, really advise you to do so. I thought Ioved H, but when I read that book I realized that I just "felt" that I loved him, but did not really do so, in a sense that I looked more inwardly to see how he was making me happy, rather than really caring for his happiness!
I hope you are still on track for the Retrouvaille! I will be attending the first post session as we missed that, H has already agreed that we do need to go to complete it!
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go