My failings: 1) I don't listen. Not like women listen to each other. When she came at me with her problems, I came up with solutions. Her stories would seem to get her so riled up it would get me anxious.
180-Just listen. She is very bright and can handle her own problems without me. She will ask if she wants to know what I think.
2) I criticize her. I took every opportunity to let her know when she let me down. Didn't tell her thank you enough. (This one went both ways.)
180-Let her know my appreciation for the things she does right. Let the other bs go.
3) Not enough quality time. We got so wrapped up in life we didn't make time for each other. Any free time we had we spent doing our own thing.
180-If she wants me to go shopping or see family or whatever. Anything she wants to do together, just do it. Be happy while doing it.
4) Always negative. There were many times when I would play devil's advocate. Not even believing in my side of the argument. Just putting it out there for the sake of conversation.
180-Don't do that. My family did it and it was considered ok. Kind of a fun debate. It drives her nuts. No need to make an argument when there is none.
I will put "I am sorry you feel that way" in my tool box.
