DG

Sorry to hear about the recent developments. Our own rollercoaster can be soo crazy, we don't even realize our WAS are on their own.. until our own ride has calmed down.

I think it's smart to let your H ride his rollercoaster alone.

Originally Posted By: ~乃G才

I haven't talked to H and I have no desire to. I think it is better this way.


I feel exactly the same way. IMO - it's a huge step in the right direction... for both of us.

For me, going dark is not a tactic. It's not about showing w how it feels when she stopped talking to me.

It's about me and getting myself emotional stable. It's getting away from the situation to heal for a bit.

And in going dark, I have learned so many things about myself and my w that I couldn't learn by responding and reacting. Things I couldn't learn when I was constantly picking at my open wound.

I hope "going dark" will bring similar things for you. I have a feeling that it will.

((( )))

M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.