WA, Your thread struck a chord with me. My W had a similar series of experiences that occurred to her when she was 12 to 15. It never came out in my threads. We never spoke about it although it was alluded to a few times in our M. The truth and extent came to light recently from other family.
Throughout the course of our drama I have been cast in the role of abuser. I have had difficulty understanding the degree of vehemence this entailed until recently. Although I share in the demise I do not believe I deserve the abuse.
I have been cast as the abuser, and as there is no one else to rail against I receive the full measure of her fury. I thought to completely remove myself would provide a modicum of peace and permit her anger to burn out. We went very dark with each other. Your experience may vary should you decide to do this, but I do not advise severing ties completely as after a year and a half she is only now as the D is about 30 days away beginning to soften her anger. In my opinion this has more to do with her perception of light at the end of her D tunnel than anything else.
I suggest staying involved by being the best father you can be. Your child is your connection. Never ever use him as a lever or wedge. Just show (actions) you are a great parent. Gain peace of mind through understanding of what may be driving her actions. Do the homework Cadet and Grit have suggested and GAL, GAL with your child whenever possible.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
