We will put the specific trust challenges aside for the time being. We WILL get back to them and I would ask that you keep thinking about them. Keep a pen and paper handy with you so that when you think of some, write them down.
What was it that you believe your H's love language is? And I know you mentioned it before, but what did you say your LL is?
What do you think might be the cause of your H's depression? I'm not asking IF you think he is depressed. I'm asking WHY he might be depressed. Any ideas?
One thing people spend their lives doing, is being unique. Of being an individual. And in that, we loose sight of how we are not at all unique, in very specific, human ways.
Yes, we wear our hair different, we have different interests, different body types, different lives... but we all function at very core levels, exactly the same.
As you process the idea of "shame and blame" in yourself... understand that your H is doing exactly the same thing... feeling exactly the same things...
What do you think HIS core shame, is? What is it that he is highly critical about, of himself?
