I don't think it's a good idea to put anyone's needs above yours. That's how we get in these relationships, by not taking care of ourselves, by not setting boundaries, by not being honest about our feelings.

I think you rescuing H with the baby was control. Really think about it, Purg. You've made so much progress, don't lose too much ground over this. You are doing things to get a reaction from him and that's not DB.

2 makes great points.

Hang tough, (((P)))


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss