Punkin if you have been following the Passive Agressive discussion over the past few weeks, you will also see that the MLCer is usually PA, and therefore very very good at shifting blame and inducing guilt in others. They have traind us up, whether unconsicously or deliberately, to take the blame. And we learnt our lesson well.
Not saying we don't need to look at our personal responsibility but I also have caught myself repeatedlu wracked by guilt over all of this, when it really isn't reasonable to do so . . .
