I've been thinking about this since you wrote it. I've had a rough week. Between XMas and New Years we went on a cruise which was my W's choice as a family vacation. A cruise would have been the last thing I would have wanted to do, but I went along for the ride with a good attitude and tried to really enjoy myself. My W commented about what a good attitude I had and that really helped her to enjoy it. This week we are on a family ski vacation (my choice) for school vacation week. My W's attitude has been very hard for me to take. She's letting me know in no uncertain terms how unhappy she is to be here.
The weather is actually great, new snow, no wind, warm temps, yet she's not skiing and is generally like 3 days of rain. We've ML twice on the vacation and it was the worst experience I can remember. She made it very clear it was "for me" and let me know she didn't enjoy it at all. This is really trying my patience. We're here with 2 other families from town and the other wives are great, helping with the kids on the slopes, truly enjoying themselves, etc., it's really eye opening that my W is unduly negative.
I was thinking today about how badly I wanted this woman back when she cheated on me and asked for divorce. Based on how I'm feeling now, if she did it again I'd tell her to go and wish her luck. What was I thinking?
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
