Just here to say I'm rooting for ya and to give you some encouragement to stay the course. Asking the W if she's dating or not shouldn't have any relevance regardless of how 'fair' it is. Take this time to keep doing what you're doing. Unless you truly 'done' by finding out she's dating, there's no point knowing. It wont accomplish anything and will just make your head go into overdrive.
My W has recently told me she still talks to guy from EA once in a while and that really bugged me and I brought it up a few times. Nothing's changed, and me mentioning it doesn't make her want me back any more. Just be the man that she wouldn't dream of losing over the guy she may, or may not, be dating.
M:28 | W:28 | T:4.5 | M:2.5 | No Children EA1 Uncovered: Jun 2011 EA2 Uncovered: 2011-09-29 S: 2011-09-29 I'm moving on: 2012-05-08 My story: http://bit.ly/K3ttPM