Not to hijack your site, but you pose a question that I have long pondered. What Snodderly says makes perfect sense, but the opposite is also just as obvious. I often ask myself if all the psycho-babble BS is what is real, or is it just what we tell ourselves to make it palatable? OUR self justification for the way things have turned out?
I apologize if I offend anyone. I do not mean to rain on anyone's parade, much less destroy their hopes. I am in the same boat as everyone here. I just want to be totally honest with myself on this. No D happens by itself. I truly believe we all have our own guilt to bear on that point. And nothing excuses the way most of us have been betrayed and hurt. Although my X has absolutely nothing to do with me in any way, shape, form or fashion, I have to ask myself, DOES HE TRULY HATE MY GUTS? HOW much of this am I responsible for?
Again, not to hijack, you just pulled the pin on something I have never been able to come to terms with.
