"W wants to talk about the R BUT then won't talk about the R in other words she struggles to open up,"
The fact that she's trying is a big deal. She's just not talking in the way that you want her to talk. That's controlling.
"then I have to ask the questions to help draw her out and thus lead the conversation?!?!?!?!?!"
Don't lead the conversation. Encourage her. Tell her that it's great that she's trying to step outside her comfort zone and be able to talk about what's on her mind. Tell her to take her time and if she feels uncomfortable about talking about things now (even though she wanted to start it), tell her it's okay and that you're there when she's ready. And that you will not judge her on what she says. Then give her a smile and a hug and be on your way.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
