Originally Posted By: TSquared2


Since I am a recovering "fixer", I get your confusion about "controlling" behaviors...I don't know if you saw this link:

http://www.livestrong.com/article/14696-overcoming-the-need-to-fix/


Wow that sums me up totally! I'd read it before but forgot about it and would never of seen that as controlling behaviour but after reading it again I can completely see it!


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Question, is leading a conversation and asking questions controlling?

Originally Posted By: TSquared2

If you are trying to get movement, a change of mind, a result, then...yes.

(Doesn't "leading a conversation" imply controlling it?)


Yeah I guess it is but when W wants to talk about the R BUT then won't talk about the R in other words she struggles to open up, then I have to ask the questions to help draw her out and thus lead the conversation?!?!?!?!?!