I asked W for all the things she found lacking in our R that she felt were my fault...and in front of her I wrote down what she said. I went through list and found what I could/would be responsible for fixing/180/changing.

I check in with myself and the list weekly to make sure I am keeping on track, changing, and keeping the changes going. And I like the man I see in the mirror now (and it shows to others too, btw).

Those things we are responsible for, not our W's choice to have A...I didn't choose to have an A during W's times she couldn't meet my needs through our M, or during her A, or mlc...I have been tempted many times, but then I wouldn't be the man/person I want to be, would I?

In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus

Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm