Thanks Rick, that's a great scripture. I also like James 3:8-10
"but no human being can tame the tongue, it is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mout come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so."

and James 1:19-20
"let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God."

I am 6 classes in with 20 to go in a domestic violence curriculum, ultimately because of my previously vile tongue. I can honestly say that is one of my 180's, I know in my heart I will never be verbally abusive toward any woman again. I also know I won't drink again, which is another 180 for me.

Now if my wife will ever open up to see these things remains to be seen, they were seemingly the two most significant problems from my side that led to our downfall.

Thanks again for your thoughts Rick they mean a lot, I will continue to pray for you and your sitch, keep your chin up!


me 38
W 30
T 3
M in 05/2010
Separated 08/2011
Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8
I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5
Anxiously waiting on the judge!