How long do you get to put up with Mr Sunshine? I wouldn't sweat it too much especially if he can't find the time to visit for 11 years. If he is a real pain maybe he won't make it back for another 11!
Relax and take it easy. No man is worth all of that stress!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory