The hardest thing I've ever done.

[MrBond]

Did you ever think that maybe God sent you to this site to get guidance? True you believe that your situation is "unique" etc. Everyone's is. But there are certain common themes that can be applied to all of them.

"I've often said to my friends and family, none of them can advise me on an exact path"

Here's where you're wrong. They can suggest and advise, but ultimately you choose what path to take. But if you don't open yourself to options, you are going to be stuck with only one opinion...your own. That's what the problem is with your W. She only sees one option...her own. It doesn't do anyone good to be stuck in the same thinking that got them where they are now in the first place.

I would suggest you posting your whole story and update frequently. Then you'll get the help you need.