Yes, it all gets very unsettling but once you find your ground it'll get better.

25 is right, let H go. The sooner you can get him out of your head, the better. You can't make him(H) do anything so you have to decide how to best handle your son.

All the diagnosing in the world won't change anything. You just have to take it one day at a time.

Have you read Codependent No More?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss