Tad, There will come a time when you will "get over" your wife. You are still very new to this and it takes a long time for people to settle back down. You have to remember that you are still going through the grieving process and it could take a couple of years before your feelings settle.
Many of the mlcers keep the op a secret to the world. It could very well be that she knows that the op would be viewed as the homewrecker or be compared to the lbs and then people would begin to question her sanity over her decisions. My xh kept his ow (now wifey) secret for about 7 years and one day I busted him on it. He still has not told his "favorite" uncle that he remarried and the Christmas cards that he use to send him had only his name on them. It's just a very strange way that they do things, but it's normal for most of them.
I'm glad you like your new home. There is a reason for all that has happened to each of us...we just have to wait and see what the good man upstairs has planned for us.
Keep up the good work!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
