Denial....its not just a river in Egypt...

[imthemom]

interesting turn of events tonight...
S14 got himself into some trouble again..(shocker..that kids gonna be the death of me) this time it involved his cell phone and lets just say that the situation definately called for some male involvement...so I called STBXH this morning to fill him in, and NO i did not text him, i called him because i could care less what he thinks anymore and Im being an adult GEEZ...I dont care if it bothers him or not..

He was surprisingly concerned and decided, on his own, that we needed to get together and "bring the hammer down" as a team. I told him I had an Al Anon meeting that i needed to go to before I could even have a discussion with S14 so he met me in the parking lot of my meeting (so he could see the "evidence" on S14s phone before we talked to him and we could make a plan of attack..LOL)
When we got to the house the conversation with S14 went so well and his D was more involved then he ever has been in his whole life..usually i do all the talking and he just sits there. I did try to not dominate the conversation but for the most part I was just going with the flow.
heres the kicker...after we were done...he stayed another 30 minutes just hangen out, laughing and talking and teasing each other (all 3 of us) like we use to. It reminded me of the person he use to be ...and its the first time ever that he hasnt been in a hurry to get the heck out of the door.

When he left S14 looked at me and said "umm..that was weird"...i could tell he was happy that his D had been involved and at the door they hugged each other and said I love you's...It was nice to see. I dont know what that was all about, but like Ive learned in Al anon...it is what it is..and I cant have any expectaions of an alcoholic, but man was it nice to see a glimps of that man I use to know...I miss him.
Then S14 said.." and ther he goes, off to his gf"....:(