Husband left me...feel hopeless

[hopingandpraying]

Okay, so I don't know really where to start because I feel like we have a long history, but I'll try to keep this short, so I can get responses of words of wisdom.

My H and I have been together for 8 years and have been married for 5 1/2. The first 3 years of our relationship was long distance because he was in the Marines. He deployed 2x to Iraq and got out of the Marines 3 years ago. Ever since he has been out, he has been distant from life. Nothing is ever good enough for him and he always wants more.

About a year and a half ago, he came home one day and said he didn't love me anymore and that our relationship was over. I said "No, we're married and we have to fight for this." I was not taking no for an answer because I didn't even know he had these feelings. We worked on things and went to a marriage counselor for 3 months. After three months, he seemed to have a new out look on life and knew he wanted me in his life. The past year has been a year of trying to earn my trust back because I had this feeling that he was going to do this again, because he never actually sought happiness for himself. He was only trying to please me. He assured me in many emails and in person that his feelings were true and that he wanted me in his future. He even explained his wanting to leave as an overload and a form of killing himself because he was just done with everything in his life.

Then, last Friday, he said this to me again, but this time we have decided to separate. I am devastated and don't really know what to do. He is going to find a place for the time being. I told him that he needed to seek professional help, that I would seek help, and that we needed help together. He agreed, but has not spoken to me over the phone....just emails.

I guess I just want to know if there are couples out there who have gone through this...that their partner has said the feelings have been gone for awhile and that they don't see the other one in their future. Does it come back??

Thanks!