Too Little Too Late.... part 7

[nhmom]

Love it! And I love the crock pot, too!

Don't be surprised if he invites himself to dinner! And if he doesn't, well, then he can be drooling over it!

[rickb89]

The crock pot and pot roast has got to work. I'm dying of hunger just reading this!

Purg - your specializing in baiting everyone....a lovely meal your husband just happens to see and smell.....a promise of a FB surprise that mysteriously isn't there. Is this what they mean when they say in DB to create mystery?

[purgatory]

Lol, Rick You can call me the queen of mystery.... Keeps everyone interested

The FB thing is making me mad!!! I'm still trying to figure out why it won't show up, I can't even send myself a message from that other page... It's as if it doesn't exist!

[25yearsmlc]

unless you live in Istanbul, which is too long a drive to Florida, I couldn't find you on FB either. Are you in a db group or just doing it on your own? Maybe add a state?

I did find a "Purgatory" in Istanbul but they kind of frightened me. And they sure don't sound like an American military wife...

(just sayin')

[rickb89]

Lol, Rick You can call me the queen of mystery.... Keeps everyone interested

The FB thing is making me mad!!! I'm still trying to figure out why it won't show up, I can't even send myself a message from that other page... It's as if it doesn't exist!

Beware the dangers of FB! Read my posts today to see why I say that!

[Grmpy_Mnky]

I defriended the W very early on after she made herself "single". Glad I did this.

[tested metal]

Purg,

You might have the account accidently set up under the "Friends only viewing" and probably have to set it to "Public" in your account settings.

[Oneeleven]

Lol, Rick You can call me the queen of mystery.... Keeps everyone interested

The FB thing is making me mad!!! I'm still trying to figure out why it won't show up, I can't even send myself a message from that other page... It's as if it doesn't exist!

Beware the dangers of FB! Read my posts today to see why I say that!

P hated FB with a passion and that is one of the first things he did after the Thailand bomb. Deleted his account that is! I am grateful as hell!!

[Jenna333]

Pfft, I made dinner one evening J came over to get the kids. I made what I knew he liked. I think it's good to show them what they're missing.

[purgatory]

God was in control tonight.

spoiler alert: this story is not directly about my sitch, but it created some interesting opportunities for me and H to work together.

It was my night 'off' from the kids. H came home, and although he didn't *say* anything about the smell in the house, he immediately went over to the crock pot to investigate. He only asked what kind of roast it was, and I told him it was beef. He made a nodding gesture with his head and his attention turned to getting the kids ready to leave for the gym (he now has the gym owner's W watching the boys instead of OW)

We all left around the same time- him to the gym and me to GAL activity for the evening.... which consisted of going to Target for a few things and getting a b-day gift for a friend before church. {here's where things went off plan, and I can only attribute it to God taking over}.... While shopping for the b-day gift, I started to feel unmotivated to go to church- I wanted to just come home and curl up in the comfort of my own bed. This was strange to me because I didn't feel sad or sick in anyway, so I shrugged it off and convinced myself that I was going to church no matter what! Then I started getting texts from my neighbor (we'll call her K for the sake of this story) and H that there were 3 cop cars at our neighbor's house (this neighbor will be J). {S6 best friend-he's 8- lives in J house, so I was getting very worried} I had been on the road heading to church, and without thinking, I turned around and went home.

K was being the nosey neighbor and sitting on her porch texting me the minute by minute. My H was in our house doing dinner and bath for the boys, so he didn't have any idea what was going on. By the time I got home, 2 more cars showed up and CPS. My only thoughts were of the 8 year old and what he was possibly having to deal with. CPS and a detective came to our door and said that mom was being arrested but that she had given permission for her son to stay with us- and they were coming to get info to do a background check. H stood next to me on the porch and by the way he and I talked and finished each other's sentences- no one would have guessed that we weren't in a solid M.

We were notified that mom was over the legal limit drunk, and that her son had called him grandma (in another state) out of fear/frustration and g-ma called our local cops. This was all news to me. I hadn't ever seen or heard about a drinking problem and it made me sick to my stomach to know that this 8 year old has been dealing with this alone (his dad is currently deployed at sea.)

H and I agreed to take him in as long as necessary. I have no idea what's going to happen tomorrow, but I'm glad that H and I were both here tonight.

After we got him asleep, H and I 'checked in' with each other. He was upset, but wasn't showing it- H has always had a hard time hearing about child abuse/neglect. I was all over the place with my emotions, and I said to H:
"I don't want to make you uncomfortable, but can I have a hug?" He smiled and said: "You'll never make me uncomfortable baby" and pulled me in for a big, tight hug and held me for a while until I composed myself. I told him that I was grateful he was here tonight, and he told me that he hoped I would have called him to come over if he wasn't- I agreed that I would have. He mentioned that we will probably have to adjust our schedules based on what our future involvement will need to be with this sitch- but that he would do whatever was necessary.

So, needless-to-say, I am emotionally drained.

I was supposed to be here tonight for this reason. My history of working with kids gave me a lot of credibility with CPS and she was happy that we were willing to take him on. My heart is just breaking for this sweet boy. I've never suspected anything going on over there, and she's even babysat my kids and had sleepovers... which makes me sick to my stomach to think of who things *could* have gone. My S has never said anything about strange events or actions in regards to the mom or the house.

I'm wondering why God has chosen *now* to place this responsibility on H and I- because it does require a commitment from both of us to support and work together. I can't imagine how this sitch would help our M.... but I'm just going with the flow and see where it will take us.

Prayers are needed for an 8 year old boy who had to grow up too soon. thanks for letting me share.

(I apologize for not posting to all my wonderful friends tonight, I don't want you to think I don't care about what's going on your lives... I just don't have the energy to do anymore tonight.)