Mrs. C, yes, its perfectly normal for you to feel that way. You have been hurt, and don't want it to happen again. You are afraid to trust again. YOu wonder if it will work. You recall the anger and hurt and feel it all over again.
In a way, you are starting to piece. I suggest you read people's sitches over in piecing, and you will find out that we go through the same emotions.
No, people won't think you are weak, usually it is the opposite. Many people have complimented me on being able to stick it out with my marriage.
Look at CTflor, MZ and my threads in piecing. YOu are not alone.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go