She knows you, your reactions. expectations, etc...both conscious and unconscious...though you try to not give a reaction, our spouses know us too well, and probably KNOW we are trying to NOT react, thus see a reaction, subtle as it is.
I thought that too or she is just so used to seeing me do it and expecting me do it that she thinks she actually did see it! Who knows? Next time I walk in I'll do something completely opposite so there isn't that misunderstanding/sub concious reaction.
Originally Posted By: TSquared2
Also, try to listen to your intuition...(that is hard for me alot of the time, I am very cognitive oriented)...what is it saying? It may be wrong, or you may have too much mind/ego interfering...but listen...it will most likely tell you the truth. Then act "as if" all is going to be okay, or is okay...
I'm too scared to listen to my intuition because my intuition says everything will be alright! But if I truly believe in that I will lose SOME (not all!) of my motivation for changes and will stop trying so hard in detaching, empathising and other things. I'm really trying to get to the place where I will be truly happy wether we D or not as I know this will do 2 things, it will help give my M the very best chance of survival and if that doesn't work it gives me a great platform to move on.
I'm really concentrating on cutting out every single possible form of persuing that I can which is hard when we're in constant contact because of the kids, it's just hard finding the right balance of not persuing and not being rude/uncommunicative,
