hope you love her, cause you're stuck with her now

[MichelleLT]

Sent Roger a text Saturday mid-morning "Inviting yourself to Disneyland with my friend, joking or not, was mildly inappropriate. Sending a mass message to like 22 people on Facebook and turning it into a forum to justify your decision goes far beyond inappropriate" About 5 minutes later I just got back "good point" (hey, at least he agreed!)

Sent a text to my dad, basically saying I know you want to understand and help, but what you're doing is inappropriate and my dad started arguing with me. Then told me if I wanted to talk to him he wasn't texting me anymore and to call him. Then he turned his phone off so I couldn't have called him even if I'd wanted to (which I didn't). UGH! 63 my a$$. More like 3!

The rest of the mass Facebook messaging (not sure if anything is missing in the middle as I got this second-hand)

Roger 11:47am Feb 17
Truth is honesty. I was honest with her, her friends and her family. As for why she and I are no longer together, that is for her to explain, Mike. Your disappointment in the situation or in me might be cleared up then. I hope the best for you in your new endeavors.

(my dad) 12:07pm Feb 17
Actually, Roger, you haven't been entirely honest. When if ever have you come to me and said, "I have a problem and would like some insights?"

Answer, "Never".

Lisette 12:44pm Feb 17
Roger - I don’t think it was necessary to de-friend us all this way and send a mass message for all to see. I know breakups are exceptionally hard, and there is need for space on both parties to heal. I know Michelle needs some space to heal, but I don’t think she’d want you to cut us all out completely, even if she needs some distance for now.


(my dad) 5:27pm Feb 17
Now that I have had a bit more time, I want you to consider the following, Roger:

First, Michelle loves you (I haven't heard otherwise)

Secondly, everyone in the family likes you and wants you to be a part of our family.

3rdly, Not a one of us is perfect and neither are you. We accept all of your imperfections, and STILL want you in our family.

If you think you are gonna get a better deal or offer than that in this frakked-up world, take it move on. OTHERWISE, get your ass back over to Michelle's: beg, crawl, do whatever it takes to work things out!!!

(my dad) 5:29pm Feb 17
The key to a good marriage is not to make yourself happy, but to brighten your mate's day, and make them happy.

Roger 6:13pm Feb 17
Thanks for your input Michael and Lisette. I understand my way of handling this is pretty cold. I have my reasons for it.

As for her. You are correct in saying she is the best out there and that She needs space to heal n such. As for me, this is my way of giving her space. By eliminating any factors that may cause more discomfort than is already taking place.

Like I said, if you want to continue to be friends you are more than welcome to drop me a line.

Michael, the reasons of our separation are not to be discussed in this blog. That is inappropriate. I respect her privacy. Granted everyone thinks this mass email is a breach of privacy. Everyone has a right to know why i am removing them from my page. That is all. I will speak no further on this matter. Thank you for you input.

I didn't talk to Roger til Sunday afternoon. He came by to pick up puppy so I could go to the hot springs, so it was mostly arrangements. He also told me my massage therapist was going to the same hot springs later. I never saw him as I was already gone by the time he got her. He tried to text me while I was at the hot springs, but I had no reception.

Got back late Monday. Went home and got unpacked, did some laundry, got ready for work. He kept puppy til after work last night. I went to the gym then went to get her. He is miserably sick *snicker* *cough*karma*cough*

Puppy was soooo happy to see him and didn't whine, scratch, or cry when I left her in the yard to go to work this am. Was a nice reprieve.