Quote: Here's a quick rundown on the problems: - I was abused as a child so to me sex is exploitation [can't seem to convince myself otherwise] - I am just not all that interested [took me 4 months to even start thinking about it when I was out of the country for a year] - my orgasms are rarely worth the hard work [I've tried a lot of solutions but nothing seems to help] - my husband is not the world's greatest lover [neither am I, of course, but I'm not the one who wants more sex] - we have both gained weight, especially him, and fitting together is not all that easy - we used to fight all the time and I just can't make love when I'm furious at him [doesn't bother him as much, I guess] - I know I can't keep him satisfied [tried for about 20 years] so I've given up trying
MY ND wife has the some of the same problems and it all comes down to one thing... The ABUSE All the arguing, complaing and criticizing she dishes out... is all to avoid one thing... SEX ... Make excuses why she is not in the mood.
I wish she would recognize the problem and GET HELP!!
How can a guy be a good lover when she is so uptight about sex that she can't really enjoy it. She can't let go enough to tell him what she likes so, how can he be a good lover? Good sex takes practice from BOTH WILLING partners. BTDT
If you really love this man.. get help... give him some good lovin that he really needs and then some... Make up for the crappy years... Before it's too late... Before he gives up and some other woman decides to do it for him....
I guarantee you will both be happier... BTW If you come to grips with your abuse and move ahead to a happier life... could you call my wife and give her some incentive to do it?
